We were recently blessed with our first baby. Since her birth, I’ve found old habits of anxiousness creeping up on me. Like many women, I have a tendency to shame myself with lies of unworthiness and inadequacy. Psychologists have found the common words used in shaming statements are “should” or “must”.
“I should just work harder.” “I should be more patient.” “I must tithe more to my church.”
My more subtle way of shaming is claiming things are needs when they’re not, at least not in the way I mean.
“I need to get the laundry done.” “I need to clean the house.” “I need to be more social.”
Yes, the house will have to be cleaned eventually and it’s not socially acceptable to walk around naked, nor would we want to, but what’s the heart behind these statements?
What I hear: “I need to be perfect.” What I really need? Jesus. [Phil 4:13]
In Jesus, there is no shame or condemnation. [Rom. 8:1] In Jesus, I am more than adequate. [Eph. 2:10] I am the daughter of the Most High King. [Gal. 3:26] I am complete and whole in Christ. [Col. 2:10] And you know what? You are too.
When God sees you, he sees beauty. He sees his precious child. He sees someone worth dying for. [John 3:16]
When I’m feeling anxious or unworthy it’s because my focus is on myself and my abilities. When my eyes are fixed on God and who he is, that is when I am truly at rest. [Ps 35:10] Striving ceases in light of the glory of God.
It’s in these moments that I hear God whisper,
A simple reminder that he is provider. He is all we really need.
So, the next time you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or defeated ask yourself, “Where is my focus?”
You might just find what you really need is to look up.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.”